Tonight, Tim and I had a long overdue date night. Our church has a program called "The Great Date Experiment". We picked up the packet at church and we were not allowed to open it until we left home it had all the instructions including where to go, what to do and even what to talk about. After 17 years of marriage I wasn't sure we needed this, but all our friends have done it and raved about it. So, off we went, packet in hand. We did just as it said, and really I learned so much about Tim. We got to talking about things we hadn't talked about in a long time. We talked about where we would live if we didn't have family or jobs to consider, what we liked best about one another and about what things in our lives God would be proud of. There was much, much more. It reminded me that through all the adoptions, moves and twists and turns our lives have taken, once upon a time it was just us. A nineteen year old who was fresh on the heels of her parents' divorce and a twenty year old who was fresh on the heels of the sudden death of his father. It is what brought us together, grief. At the time our friends were partying and care free, we were serious. We were coping with tough family issues and demanding majors, me in nursing and him in pharmacy. I really couldn't have fathomed where we have ended up and the blessings that would rise from our story.
Tonight we got to celebrate our lives together and excitedly talk about the new chapter, Nate. We sifted through the pictures again trying to guess his personality from the 15 or so photos I have of him. We ultimately came up with that we firmly believe he is a goof ball. I have a picture of him on all fours appearing to roar like a lion, I have one of him chasing bubbles around the yard, and others of him making faces. I think we ultimately decided he is already part of us. A perfect match for the other four goof balls that live here. In all, after 17 years and many, many evenings out, best date ever.
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